Ladies Pamper Yourselves – ‘It’s one you’

Pampering yourself can cover a wide range of activities, all of which should be designed to make you feel happy, relaxed and at peace. Whether you are locking out the world, being careless in a good way or just being ‘selfish’ for one day, you should enjoy it to the fullest. There are numerous benefits to be derived from pampering you. Not only do you benefit but by extension your spouse and family at large.

Pampering Your Physical Body

Enjoy a luxurious day, the best that you can afford. Select a spa where you have the option to rest, relax and rejuvenate. These spas usually have hot tubs, cold plunges where you can soak and bubble if that is your preference. They also offer other services, to include massages and facials. In my experience, facials give your skin a renewed glow and youthfulness, that all of us sometimes need, after a hard month working and encountering the elements of the environment


Soak away some of the tiredness and stress that have gotten you feeling miserable. Soaking in a hot tub with one of several essential oils can be both peaceful, healthy and rejuvenating. This can be done at home – set a warm bath and add some bubble bath, bath salts, or an essential oil of your choice. To make it even more relaxing, light a few scented candles, there are many to choose from coconut, soy, beeswax, etc.), and enjoy the moment. Put on some soft music of your choice; preferably classical music, and pour yourself a glass of wine as you are soaking.


A manicure and pedicure are also in order at this time. After all this soaking, pull out the nail polish, colour of your choice, and the toe dividers and put on the finishing touches to a well organised, personal work of art. If you chose to go for the professional spa day, then just add a manicure, pedicure and possible hairdo. Steaming with hot water and essential oils is another great treat after a tiresome day or week. Aromatherapy is an excellent way to clear the pores and the nasal cavity. Once the water is steaming, remove the pot, pour the water in an easy to handle container, add your favourite fragrance of oil, place a towel over your head and container and breathe in the scented steam. Scents that may help you relax are:





Indulge in a treat you never normally would. This may vary, it is entirely up to you. This could be tickets to a concert or a movie you have been waiting to see. It could be some exotic food to treat your palate, or it may be a new piece of clothing, the decision is yours. A part of pampering your body is enfolding it, in comfortable, gorgeous clothes. As a side note, you could donate those items of clothing that you plan to replace. That act could possibly bring you some satisfaction.

Do something you do not normally have time for. Have you been meaning to listen to music or poetry? Now would be a good time. Do you like gardening? Why not lock out the world for a day, and plant some seeds. Pampering yourself can be accomplished through making time for your hobby, doing the things that you love but have not been able to because you are so busy. Now is the time, your time.

Be Careless for a Day in a Good Way

From the day before, pre-plan this: send the kids to relatives or make other arrangements. No alarm clock, wake when you want, take a longer than normal shower, put on the comfiest clothes of your choice and eat yourself into oblivion if that’s what you want. Sit in your favourite chair, read a book, maybe one you have started and have not finished. If books aren’t your thing, pick a newspaper, a blog or a magazine.

Curl up in bed and watch some television. It’s your day so you may pick and choose whatever channel you feel like watching – Pretty Woman, Chick-Flick guilt-free, or watch a documentary. Remember, this day is all about you.  You could also try meditation, releasing your worries and allowing yourself to mentally decompress. Find yourself a quiet spot, close your eyes and practice some deep breathing exercises. Release the tension build up, from work, bill paying and family issues that you have to solve. This simple exercise of deep breathing, concentrating on your breathing for at least 10 minutes can help you de-stress.

Thinking about your goals is another way to relax, usually, there are things that you are really passionate about, and these can often get swept aside in the insanity of the present. When pampering yourself, set aside some time to consider your life and what you hope to achieve. Most of us have plans, hobbies and things we would personally love to accomplish, and then life happens. Create a bucket list, update your bucket list or revisit a past bucket list that you made, and consider how your goals have changed, (if they really have).

Consider your goals – Thinking about the things that you are really passionate about can often get swept aside in the insanity of the present. When pampering yourself, set aside some time to consider your life and what you hope to achieve. Create a bucket list, update your bucket list or revisit a past bucket list that you made and consider how your goals have changed (if, they really have).

Emotional pampering

Practice self-love – look in the mirror and list everything that you love about yourself. Tell yourself how wonderful you are, that you deserve to be loved, respected and cared for. Spend time with your God, reflect on your blessings, the fact that you are alive and well. Think of your accomplishments, and the experiences you have had, and reflect on how they have shaped you as a person. Conversely, consider the things you would like to improve, without thinking negatively about those things.

Spend time with the people you love. Set aside some time from your busy schedule to pamper your heart, by making plans with the people you love to be around, to spend some quality time with them sometimes doing nothing. For example, one evening you could just sit outdoors with your spouse after dinner, watch the sun go down and the moon rise (if the weather permits), gaze upon the beautiful blue sky with the occasional patch of fluffy white clouds. Listen to some music of “yester year”, songs that remind you of your earlier years, or those that have special meaning to you both.

Pampering yourself can also mean pampering your spouse. Spend some time planning a getaway – it may be a week or just a weekend but make it count. It does not mean you have to spend a lot of money or you have to go far, as in flying to a destination. You could just book a hotel for one night, just for a change of scenery. Forget work, forget the bills, just be yourselves, and get lost in the company of each other.

You could call relatives and friends you have not spoken to in a while. Catching up with them can be a great way to revive and emotionally strengthen you. It allows for a chance to laugh and be funny no matter where in the world you all are. With technology where it’s at today, your other options include Skype, Facetime, and WhatsApp video calls, which are all free with data. The technology available is a most helpful alternative to the real face to face meeting.



Life is short, and so many of us have not gotten the chance to, or allow ourselves to really live and enjoy it. We place everyone else’s needs and well-being ahead of ours and neglect ourselves. It is important though to have balance. Love our families, but love ourselves enough to take care of our own needs, stay healthy and strong so we can be a better support system for our family and friends. Never neglect yourself for anything or anyone.


4 Replies to “Ladies Pamper Yourselves – ‘It’s one you’”

  1. What a great article on such an important topic – self-care! As women it can often be easier to care for others rather than ourselves, but after some years it can really take its toll if you do not look after yourself. I’m living proof of that, Althea!
    Saying no to people and to demands of society in order to better care for yourself can be the hardest , but most important thing to do for ourselves!
    I love all your suggestions for self-care, especially the planning and setting goals. Taking stock of your situation and making plans , actually defining yourself and what you want can make you feel so much better about yourself and pave a positive way forward.
    You have inspired me to carve out some time or myself. Thanks so much for these wonderful ideas!
    Best wishes
    Lyndal Jane

    1. Lyndal I am really happy and humbled that I am able to connect with you. I hope you do something really nice for yourself soon. Don’t be a stranger, let me know what you are doing.

  2. Althea,

    Really a nice article on self-care and how to take care of our physical, mental and emotional self.
    You have given some really good tips, my favourite is using Essential oils. It can be used in many ways and not only helps to relax on mental but also on an emotional plane.


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